Tuesday, January 26, 2010
We do that, don't we? Keep the peace; allow things to go unsaid. We don't rock the boat. Instead we keep our mouths shut and harden our hearts in the process. Thing is, these things left unsaid? We choke them down, hiding them deep. They fester. They grow. Spreading like a cancer, and if we don't treat the root cause they begin to affect every aspect of our lives.
Are you really mad at your wife because she left dishes in the sink?
Is it such a big deal that your husband forgot to pick up the dry cleaning like you asked?
Funny how everything becomes all or nothing: "You NEVER keep this kitchen clean!"
Or: "Why do I ALWAYS have to remind you twice to pick up the dry cleaning?"
Really? Tell me in honestly if your wife has never cleaned the kitchen or that your husband always has to be reminded again and again to run an errand for you. Bet you can't.
But it's so much easier to bitch about dishes and dry cleaning than to be vunerable and say "I don't feel loved. I'm not important to you."
Worse still is not expressing love because you make the assumption that they already know. They might, but everyone needs reassurance.
And remember: Love is a verb, not a noun.
This post is part of the Blog Carnival - Peace - hosted by Bridget Chumbley over at One Word at a Time.